Here are five steps that you can take to start seeing a difference immediately.
- Stand up as TALL as you can, like you’re a puppet and somebody just pulled the string that’s attached to the top of your noggin
- Pull your shoulder blades down and back as far as possible – This will feel really weird if you spend a lot of time hunched over a desk
- Pick your chin up and look straight ahead – stop looking down while walking around, there’s a whole world out there for you to see
What’s the importance of slowing down? When you get nervous, your voice tends to go up a few notes and you’ll talk faster than you realize. These are two dead ringers for “scaredy cat.”
Not a fake smile, not a creepy smile, but a genuine smile.
Don’t know how to smile correctly? Stand in front of a mirror, close your eyes, and look down. Look up, smile, and open your eyes at the same time. See that smile right there? THAT’S a genuine smile.
Win the staring contest
When was the last time you looked somebody in the eye until THEY looked away first?
Get out of your head
After going through some physical changes, it’s going to take time for you to adjust how you feel on the inside versus how you look on the outside.
If you feel out of place in a situation, everybody around you probably does too.
Once you spot somebody you’re interested in, don’t give yourself more than three seconds before approaching him/her.
Introduce yourself immediately to strangers at a party
- Once you have your speech or presentation prepared, don’t give yourself hours to get nervous – concentrate on something else to occupy your mind until it’s time to present. Don’t over-think, just follow the plan and talk slowly.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once said: “He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life.”