“We are together only till we are in college.’’
“We are not thinking of marriage. This is just time-pass.”
For most youngsters, college romance start with an expiry date as being in a relationship seems to be more of a social obligation than having feelings for each other. Moreover,when life revolves around only one person, and friends tend to be ignored.
Psychologists opine that this combination can get dangerous as if one has no friends to talk to, he could take out the frustration on the person he is seeing.
The recent stabbing incident at Bandra’s Chetna College has brought the issues faced by youngsters in relationships back into focus.
“Youngsters are becoming more practical and give more importance to career, irrespective of their gender. Hence college relationships are not mostly long-lasting commitments. But when one of the two partners gets serious, it leads to an emotional breakdown and weird reactions,” says Radhika Goel, from IIT-B.
“Also when you are in a relationship, you tend to spend most of your time with your partner and ignore friends. So, the obvious spot to vent out frustration goes missing when anything goes wrong in a relationship,” she adds.
TA Shivare, principal of Hinduja College, feels that it has become a fashion to be in a relationship.
“They can follow this fashion like any other trend of clothes or hairstyle. But, they should know their limits. They start speaking about love at such young age and eventually it entirely depends on how their career has turned out to be. If socially (in terms of education, profession, success in career) they are not compatible enough, one seeks a break-up and the other reacts badly.”
Psychiatrist Dr Harish Shetty advises the youth not to put all their apples in one basket.
“Some couples treat their relationships with excessive possessiveness and feel that they own him/her and then have excessive expectations. They forget that freedom and space is equally important in a relationship.
Source: DNA
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