Many people believe that long distance relationships are never going to work out. Your family may discourage it, and some of your best friends may advise you not to take it too seriously, in case you get your heart broken. Long distance relationships are definitely risky, and if you are unfortunate enough to be far away from your significant other, the prospect of potentially ruining your relationship can seem daunting. Just because people say that long distance relationship is very tough to handle, doesn’t mean that it is impossible. Adjusting yourself with your partner and changing your attitude with your lover can help you keep your loved one in life.
Some tips which you can follow on making your long distance relationship work:-
1) Communicate in some way every day, more than once if possible:
Since you won’t be seeing each other, it is important to establish and maintain a good emotional connection with your partner. As our technology is getting developed there are so many apps through which you can keep in touch with your partner and the cost is less. If you wanna see him/her you can just ask them to on their web-cam and you can talk to each other face to face. Everyday before you go to bed you can tell your partner about your day, What all you did? If you faced any problem..etc.
2) Have a goal in mind:
“What do we want to achieve at the end of the day?” “How long are we going to be apart?” “What about the future?” These are the questions you two need to ask yourselves. The truth is, no couple can be in a long distance relationship for forever. Eventually we all need to settle down. So try to make a plan with each other. It is not like you guys are gonna stay apart from each other forever so try to talk about the time you gonna be together and what you both want to do in future because both of you are still working together in the same direction towards a future that includes one another.
3) Support each other, even over the distance:-
You have to be there for your partner. If your partner is ever in trouble, or hurt, or whatever, be there for them. Make sure you are available to them so that they can reach you if they need you. If you are not with them at the time when they really need your support then there is a chance you may loose them. For eg: If your boyfriend is not having a job and he is far away from you don’t keep asking and shouting at him why you not having a job and all instead tell him some comforting words and give him the confidence that you can get the job and you will pray for him and all.
4) Create Trust:-
The most important part of long distance relationship is trust. You should try to create trust in your partners. Once you break your partner’s trust it is too hard for him/her to trust you like he/she used to before. If you wanna hangout with opposite sex so tell your gf/bf about it and then go eventually he will start trusting you because he/she will have in mind that my gf/bf is loyal to me if he/she wanna go out somewhere my gf/bf tells me and go.
5) Create connections:-
Meet one another’s friends, online or off. If one of you must someday move so that you can be together, that person will be leaving friends behind. Start right away to begin a new social and professional network for the partner who is moving. In the meantime, you’ll both know who’s in the stories you tell each other.
6) Do similar things:-
Recommend books, TV shows, movies, music, news and etc. to each other. When you read, watch and listen to the same things, you get to have more topics in common to talk about. This will make the distance between you seem smaller and more bridgeable. You’ll feel closer together and you’ll be bonding at the same time.
7) Gift a personal object for the other person to hold on to:-
There is power in a memento. Be it a small pendent, a ring, a keychain, a CD of songs and videos, or a bottle of fragrance. We often attach meanings to the little things and items found in our everyday life, whether knowingly or not. This is what we all do — we try to store memories in physical things, in hope that when our mind fails us, we can look or hold on to something that will help us remember. This is why something so simple can mean so much to a person, when others may see little or no value in it.
8) Video-call whenever possible:-
Because looking into each other’s eyes and hearing each other’s voices can make everything feel alright again.
9) Enjoy your alone time and your time with your friends and family:-
You are alone but you are not lonely, unless you choose to feel like it. You don’t have to let your world revolve around your partner — you still have you, your friends and your family. Take this time apart to do more with your friends and family. There are plenty of things to do which doesn’t involve your partner.
10) Keep track of each other’s social media activities:-
Like each other’s photos on Facebook and Instagram. Tweet each other. Tag each other. Share things on each other’s walls. Show that you care. Be cool about stalking each other.
So if you follow some of these things, you can keep your long distance relationship healthy.
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